Minds Matter – March 2026

You’re Not Alone

Almost every single day, I meet someone who tells me about a neighbour, relative, friend, or spouse who is dealing with memory issues—and they have no idea what to do.

The first thing I’d recommend is seeing a doctor for a proper diagnosis. Unfortunately, this can be hit or miss, because many medical professionals were never adequately trained in dementia, let alone nutrition, which is such an important aspect of brain health. Doctors may give a vague diagnosis and prescribe medications, some of which can actually worsen the situation if we are not certain what type of dementia we are dealing with.

Often, patients are sent away to “figure it out” and told to come back in six months. It is shocking to learn that up to one third of dementia cases go undiagnosed, and as a result, no lifestyle changes are made at all.

Memory loss is not a natural part of aging. It’s normal for people to become a bit forgetful as they age; we may forget names or appointments but remember them later. This is a typical age-related change. So how can you tell a harmless “senior moment” from Alzheimer’s disease? One of the most common signs of Alzheimer’s, especially in the early stages, is forgetting recently learned information. Someone in the early stages of Alzheimer’s might begin forgetting important dates or events, asking the same questions repeatedly, and increasingly relying on memory aids—such as reminder notes or electronic devices. They often rely on family members for tasks once handled independently.

Alzheimer’s may not be obvious to friends and family at first, but there are early warning signs that should not be ignored. We need to address these signs as soon as they appear, because in many cases dementia can be delayed, and in some situations, it can be reversed. The first step is educating those who assist people living with dementia and teaching them how to respond with understanding and confidence.

We must also address risk factors and make lifestyle changes. Reducing isolation, increasing social interaction, and engaging in meaningful daily activities all play an important role.

In the past, many doctors told us to expect only two to five years of longevity after an Alzheimer’s diagnosis. Much has changed over the last ten years. Most doctors now admit they are not fully up to date on dementia, which is not surprising given that there are more than 100 different types. We need to educate ourselves and adapt to a different lifestyle. There have been numerous cases where progression has been delayed successfully, so rather than focusing on decline, why not focus on positive lifestyle changes?

Around Lakeside, there are several support groups that offer tremendous help. Members can provide guidance, share experiences, and offer practical advice on many topics.

With loving care and an active, healthy lifestyle, the process can be slowed. For people who are physically healthy, this can make a tremendous difference, allowing them to continue enjoying life—not in the way we once expected, but with dignity, respect, and joy.

Find your support. Find your community. Share with others who have walked this road before you. With compassion, connection, and hope, dementia can still be a journey filled with meaning, love, and life.

You’re not alone

I see the fear in your eyes,

when you look at him, he who has dementia.

I can read your thoughts:

“Is this what it’s going to be like,

Will they ignore me,

like I try to ignore him?”

I will know your reaction:

“I have to keep this silent, no one may know,

perhaps it’ll go away.”

I understand your feelings:

Dementia is something we don’t want to talk about.

We are ashamed, scared, embarrassed.

But wait. There is help, there is hope and many will understand.

Let’s talk about it, and do understand

You’re not alone

~ Elly Contreras

For questions about local dementia care resources, please email me at: lakesidedaybreak@gmail.com